It’s been my experience that in order to be able to do anything and do it well, you first have to care about whether or not it is done well.
That may sound very simple to some or very common sense like but when it comes down to it,,,,most people these days don’t give a crap about how well something is done anymore. They just want to be able to say, “it’s done”, so they can move onto doing something else.
My thing is, does it really make sense when you do something to have to have someone else come behind you and have to finish what you started or to have to do it over again because you didn’t do it right?
Carpenter’s have a saying, “Measure twice, cut once” and my father used to say, “if you’re going to do something, do it right or don’t bother doing it at all!”
I don’t understand why it is so hard for some people to care about what they’re doing. No one gets praised for doing half-assed work,,,,trust me.
Personally, I like it when people know that I’ve done a good job with anything I do. Not so much because I get praise, but because it makes me feel good about myself knowing that I was capable of doing what I did.
When I was parenting my kids, I always thought about what kind of people my kids would become. My goal was for them to become decent human beings but I also knew that they would have to be able to make their own way in the world that they lived in and for that they needed to be able to think for themselves.
Kids are not going to be able to make any decisions for themselves if you as a parent do not give them the information to be able to choose wisely from. I think that when you deny your child any part of their life that can be beneficial to their decision making, you are denying them growth as a human being.
For instance, my ex-husband tried to teach my kids that it was ok for them to not listen to me because he didn’t agree with what I said. He also told them to not tell me certain things that he didn’t want me to know about and what that taught my kids was that Mom was the bad guy and that they had to lie to me.
I never felt the need to destroy the character of my ex-husband to make myself look better to my kids. I knew too that it wasn’t going to help them or be best for them if I was to do the same thing that he was doing. Like my Mom used to say, “two wrongs don’t make a right!”
I always felt like someone had to be the bigger person,,,,the grown-up and just do what would be best for the kids in the long run. I knew that eventually, they would see for themselves what was what and they did.
I don’t think a lot of people really think about all that kind of stuff. Granted, some do, thank God, but there are so many who leave all the teaching to tv, day cares, schools, churches, etc. And when that is the case, as we all know so well these days, anything can happen.
Teaching a child right from wrong is the responsibility of the parent and whether you believe it or not, it begins from birth. There is no right age for you to begin teaching him or her anything. You have to begin teaching when the circumstance or situation presents itself to you and you can’t always be saying, “but they’re only a baby.” This is an excuse for not wanting to do the hard stuff associated with being a parent.
Some people might say, “yeah, but don’t you first have to know right from wrong in order to teach it?”
I used to think this was the case but now I think it’s all about what we choose to do. The parents who teach their kids the wrong way are, in my humble opinion, choosing what is best and easiest for themselves, not their kids.
Anyone who has grown up in our society knows what is right and knows what is wrong. It is the selfish ones always thinking about themselves that always choose to do the wrong things because they simply do not care about anything or anyone but themselves.
Being a parent and raising a child to be a decent human being is work. No bones about it! If you love and care about your child, you will be willing to do what it takes to help your child become the best person that he or she can be but, first, you have to care.
Thank you for reading.